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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/irene-feh ... 23330.htmlThis is connection sex.Imagine, instead of entering the bedroom with an idea of what sex looks like and a goal, you allow the connection between you and your partner to dictate what’s next.
You let go of preconceived ideas and expectations. Strip away the goal. Forget everything you know.
Slow down. Get naked. And feel into what’s there.
Let your body lead. Let your mind quiet down.
Let desire dictate your moves. Let the sensation turn you on. Let the attention and curiosity for each other fuel the connection.
Use to your inner guidance: What’s here now? And now? And now? What’s wanting to emerge? What’s my body wanting? What’s my partner wanting? What’s arising between us?
Surrender to your own inner guidance and flow. Feel what’s created between.
Sometimes it’s hot and heavy. Other times subtle. Electric. Soft and tender. Undulating. Still.
There are peaks and valleys. Hot and cold. Loss of control. Taking control. Stop. Flow. Play.
There is no order, no scripted path.
When there is no goal, variety naturally emerges. When you get curious, things become new.
Sex does not need to look a certain way. But it has to feel connected. Sometimes all it takes is a make-out. Other times penetration feels right. Other times, you lay in each other’s arms, in total stillness, intertwined in a wild embrace .... until you can no longer tolerate the heat arising between you and it shifts. Or you fall asleep, tender, connected, still.
Whereas goal-oriented sex is about arriving, completing, achieving, connection sex is about flowing, shifting, becoming, evolving - with no end in sight. No repetition. No expectations.
Whereas goal-oriented sex often creates pressure to perform, connection sex is about presence, attention, desire - whatever it looks like.
Whereas goal-oriented sex opens room for hurt feelings and disappointments from failed expectations, connection sex is about including all that arises and enjoying the thrill of what you create together - whatever it looks like.
Like a river, connection sex evolves, creating and recreating itself, moment to moment, touch after touch, sensation after sensation.
Connection sex is not about what sex looks like. Or even having sex. And it’s certainly not about the path to get off.
It is the path. It is about what sex feels like when you have nowhere to go.
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